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2014-02-15 Sat 16:05
Looking for a spanking in Midtown on your lunch break? Yup, she’ll do that.
And Ms. Renee Trevi, a 27-year-old Russian immigrant working as a dominatrix in Manhattan, has an MBA to boot.
It wasn't always her calling, but she revealed it is certainly more exciting line of work when she lifted the lid on her career on the kink scene and one particular public session that began at a restaurant in Manhattan.
Renee, not her real name, made the move to America when she was 18-years-old and eventually got her MBA but ditched a $50 an hour job in finance to make $300 an hour whipping men.
'I was getting depressed quickly because of hours in the office, tedious jobs with numbers. I knew that I had a good chance to have a good career and I had to just to work hard for that,' she said.
But she said she thought it was 'just a waste of life just to spend it in the office with just two weeks of vacation per year.'
'I love to travel the world for a month at a time, many months every year. I just had to change something about it. My dream was actually to have my own business. That's why I got [an] MBA.'
But what happened next was hardly what she expected. She could not have predicted entering the world of BDSM.
'It's like such a sketchy topic. So many people have wrong ideas about it. Like they think it's something freaky and something perverted and before I started doing it, it's exactly what I thought about it.
'And then a friend of mine said to me at a party, "Why don't you do that? My wife is a mistress and that's what she does."
And he showed me her pictures and I was really freaking out. I'm like "What! I'm so against violence. I'm not one of those people."
'But then it kind of got stuck in my mind and I was thinking… "Well, actually I've done this thing before and I've tried that and it's kind of fun and it's not as freaky as I thought. Maybe I could just take a look at it."
'And then I contacted the same person and he introduced me to his wife, who was a very famous former mistress of New York, and she brought me to a dungeon where I had a chance to see things and that's how I slowly got involved.'
For the past three years, she has been a mistress. She was working for a service for about two years, but for the past year has been working freelance, which she said is even better than owning her own business.
'It's amazing because I don't work too much,' she said. 'I'm so happy. I feel I'm so blessed, actually, because I do what I love.'
Her adventurous spirit extends beyond the dungeon. Renee is a skydiver, a scuba diver, a shark diver, and a BASE jumper. As of the time this interview was conducted, she had 774 skydiving jumps under her belt, including two naked jumps.
She insists there are a lot of misconceptions about her profession.
'There is no sex involved. There is no nudity involved in it,' she said. 'Clients are always naked and we are never naked. That's what creates the whole power exchange because they see me powerful in my leather and they're helplessly naked in front of me. That's the beginning of it.
'People don't have any knowledge of what I do. So they can have any ideas they like. Since people don't know, they can think anything - like it's perverted, it's strange, it's like prostitution, it's violence.
'Yeah, violence. I guess that's the most popular one. They think it has something to do with aggression and violence,' she added. 'Well, it's totally not this way. It has nothing to do with real aggression or violence. It's so consensual. I don't ever do anything that my client wouldn't want me to do or something that would leave traces for the rest of his life. I wouldn't do any of that.
'I would say it's really a kind of loving even though it might look the other way. We discuss the session beforehand and I'm really careful with things. We give each other a hug at the end of it.
'We smile to each other when we say goodbye. You always send a follow-up letter if it was a heavy session just to make sure he's doing okay. So, it's really nice.'
While there is no sexual intercourse, men do usually masturbate at the end of a session. She does insist that they wear a condom.
'That's their happy ending. But I'm responsible to keep this tension for the whole hour. So, this is the whole pleasure for the men because [in] their normal sex lives, I mean, they have sex, and it's gone and it's kind of quick and boring.
'But during my session, it's so many things going on and while the guy is excited, he has all these fantasies going through his head and that's what makes his sex life so exciting this way,' she said.
'I think the sex life of a typical man has to be more diverse than it is because normal sex seems to be so boring compared to all the things that are available, to make it longer, to make the whole process more interesting, exciting, unpredictable, and maybe even a bit dangerous or painful.'
What happens in a typical session?
'Well, with a new client… he comes in. He tells me what he likes. He tells me all his thoughts, fantasies. And he usually knows in advance what I'm specializing in, what I can do, what I can't do,' she said.
'So, he usually describes his ideas within my limits. So, this way I can create the scenario for one hour or two hours of what we can do. Most of them want either psychological humiliation or physical humiliation.'
She described psychological humiliation as 'verbal humiliation. Creating some non-painful scenarios where I humiliate them in different ways. Create some different person out of them. For example, like I'm feminizing them. That's quite a humiliating thing for a man.'
Does she yell at them? Insult them?
'Some of them want a more rough way to be dominated. Most of my clients actually like me to be more sensual, more playful. Not everybody likes to hear bad words and screaming. I actually don't really like to raise my voice too much. I prefer to do it more of a soft way, but strict at the same time,' she said.
As for physical humiliation, she said there are any number of things that can be done, including what she called 'electrical play'. Electrodes are literally attached to the client’s intimate parts.
She said it's a process of 'slowly building up the electricity… I just slowly turn it, turn it, and turn it until they cannot handle it anymore.'
'There all kinds of toys for that. I just started doing it recently though. So maybe I can learn more about that,' she added.
She also noted that the equipment used is specifically designed for this purpose and with safety in mind. She’s studied the techniques and won’t attach the electrodes to nipples because if someone has a heart problem, it could be very dangerous.
What's been the most outrageous things that anyone has ever asked her to do?
'Total enslavement, for example, to keep them as my real slave. That's also a popular one which I won't do because I don't want it to be my full-time thing,' she said. 'But yeah, a lot of guys want to make it real and most of the guys don't want to do just the sessions like a commercial exchange. They want me to keep them as my slave for life.'
She generally puts her clients in three categories - masochists, those who like more psychological role playing, and fetishists. She just learned of something called a 'giant crushing fetish'.
'They fantasize of the idea of a woman crushing something little with her high-heeled shoe. Like a little [thing] can be anything. It can be a little insect, for example, and they watch it and that's what excites them,' she said.
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2011-10-31 Mon 00:09
Three Zimbabwean women have been accused of a series of sex attacks on male hitchhikers, purportedly to steal their semen for use in ritual practices.
In a case that has gripped media and public imagination, the gang appeared in court to face charges of aggravated indecent assault.
Sophie and Netsai Nhokwara, sisters aged 26 and 24, along with 28-year-old Rosemary Chakwizira, are the first suspects to be arrest sinceaccounts of women gang-raping men in Zimbabwe emerged two years ago. They were charged along with Thulani Ngwenya, 24, who is Sophie Nhokwara's boyfriend.
The gang's alleged 17 victims identified so far include a soldier and a police officer whom they allegedly forced to have sex without condoms,the state-owned Herald newspaper reported.
"It is alleged that on 3 March this year at around 7:50am, the four, who were driving a Toyota Spacio without registration numbers, picked a 19-year-old man in Budiriro, Harare," the paper said.
"The teenager was on his way to town. Along the way, the state says they sprayed him with chemicals and he felt dizzy. It is alleged they diverted the route and drove into a bushy area along Mukuvisi river behind Houghton Park where they forced him to drink a concoction, which stimulates sexual desire.
"They then allegedly forced the teenager to be intimate with the three of them using condoms. After this, they secured the used condoms containing semen before spraying him with the same substance and leaving him unconscious. When he woke up, the teenager reported the matter to police."
The women were arrested when they were involved in an accident and police reportedly found 31 used condoms ? three half-full of semen ? in the boot of their car.
James Sabau, a spokesman for Harare police, told state media that preliminary investigations suggested a ritual link to the collection of victims' semen.
"We are still trying to figure out why semen was collected," he was quoted as saying. "Information we have gathered so far links the entire female rapist issue to rituals that make people rich. It is, however, still unclear how the supposed rituals work."
The suspects, "dressed in designer clothes and fancy hairstyles", according to one report, stood in the dock as the charges were read for almost an hour last Friday. They were then remanded in custody until 28 October.